The Officiant Shuffle
This past week, our dear friend James Jackson who we had asked to officiate our wedding in Mexico informed us of his October schedule. We knew when we asked him to officiate our ceremony back in February, that he would be auditioning once again for the Radio City Christmas Spectacular and if chosen again this year, he warned that the rehearsal schedule may overlap with our chosen wedding date. Having performed in this show last year, he knew what to expect. However, we hoped and prayed it would not interfere.
Last weekend he provided an update. James was cast and would be starting rehearsals the week of the wedding. He stated that he would be available the Sunday of our wedding day, but would not be able to miss rehearsal the Saturday prior which means he would have to fly out of NY or NJ the morning of Sunday, October 17 and take a minimum of two planes to get there by 4pm to make the boat to the island. Then, he would have to fly back on Monday morning, the first flight out, and more than likely have to use a sick day (on the second week of rehearsals). He loves us so much that he was even willing to do this – fly in and out for $700.00+ just for us.
It didn’t take long for Tom and I to decide what to do… We felt it unfair to ask this much of our dear friend. It is not right to ask him to pay that kind of money to fly for such a short time; to call in from work so he could fly back to NYC and miss a day of important rehearsals; to possibly jeopordize his career for us, etc. In addition, what would happen if the plane was delayed? Just one delay and he could miss the boat – literally. We didn’t want to put that kind of stress on him or that kind of financial burden either. And, Tom and I didn’t want to worry (on our wedding day) whether or not he would be able to make it in time for the wedding.
So Tom called him this week and explained that it was a lot to ask of him, that we didn’t want to put that kind of pressure or burden on him, that we appreciated his willingness to do it, and asked if it would be okay with him to find another person to officiate. We believe this was a welcomed relief to poor James. I can’t imagine how stressed he probably was about the whole thing.
Thank you, James! We love you and will miss you at the ceremony, but we understand. Sometimes, stuff happens and that’s okay!
What to do? Tom and I thought about it… and we figured there was only one other person we would want to ask. This person is also very close to us. And while we felt it would be a different type of ceremony with her officiating it, we felt it would be just as powerful. We are excited that Susan Varon has agreed. Thank you Susan!
We are so lucky to have such wonderful people in our lives.