Quote of the Week: Wilferd A. Peterson
When Tom and I were writing our wedding ceremony, we did a bit of research to find tidbits of this and that to incorporate in our script.
One of the pieces I found during this research was a poem by Wilferd Peterson called “The Art of Marriage.” Cited as being one of the most frequently recited English-language wedding poems/readings, Souvenir Press states that it “embodies the sentiments, the ideals, and the love to which any marriage aspires.” I am sure you will also agree that “the memorable simplicity of its language makes the poem a touchstone for all couples, both at the start of a relationship and after the blessings of a lifetime in love.”
I absolutely love that the language in this poem is inclusive of LGBT persons. The use of “partner” rather than “bride” or “wife” or “husband” is, well… wonderful. Language such as this illustrates that this poem is in fact a touchstone for ALL couples – both gay and straight.
In the end, Tom and I decided not to include readings in our ceremony. However, we did take a bit of this poem and incorporate it in our ceremony. We love this poem so much. Therefore, I give it to you now as this week’s Quote of the Week.
THE ART OF MARRIAGE
The little things are the big things.
It is never being too old to hold hands.
It is remembering to say “I love you” at least once a day.
It is never going to sleep angry.
It is at no time taking the other for granted.
The courtship should not end with the honeymoon, it should continue through all the years.
It is having a mutual sense of values and common objectives.
It is standing together facing the world.
It is forming a circle of love that gathers in the whole family.
It is doing things for each other, not in the attitude of duty or sacrifice, but in the spirit of joy.
It is establishing a relationship in which the independence is equal, dependence is mutual and the obligation is reciprocal.
It is not only marrying the right partner, it is being the right partner.